Wife Left (Part 2)

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More journaling: This morning was more of same. W came over to get S. She apologized to me saying she didn't meant to sound bitchy on the phone yesterday. I told her it was ok, I didn't realize she was acting bitchy, and I understood how it is crazy sometimes for her at work. That brought out a lot of venting for her. She took a seat on the floor and said how stressed out and upset she is at work, that a coworker who worked there for half as long as she did is getting Manager in training status. I told her not to take it personally since she is only part time and he is full time. She said she knew she shouldn't be upset, but it still bothered her. She actually said she wasn't sure if this was the job for her anymore. She continued to vent about her work, I must have said I understand or a variation of it about 20 times. I told her she is a very hard worker, and all her sales show it except for the one she got in trouble for, and her manager always trusts her with everything. She is being overshadowed by 2 overachievers who are in the top 1% in the region in sales, and she is still in the top 10% (hopefully that was validating her). I also told her she should be proud, since she helped train her coworker to get him where he is today. I think she was feeling better after venting to me. I noticed it was time for me to go, so I asked when I would get S again. She said she knows I hate being away from him for more than a day, so maybe Saturday night. I asked her if she had plans to go out Saturday night, she said she wasn't sure yet, she didn't feel like partying, but maybe go for a few drinks. I told her to give me a call and we could figure out the details and I left for work.

I really hate just having to sit there and listen (I love listening to her don't take that the wrong way). It would be nice to be able say more to her and hold her to comfort her. W did say at her old job she was feeling miserable and thought a job change was all she needed to make her feel better. When the job change didn't work she concluded it was me that was the problem in her life. Now she is feeling stressed and getting upset at work, and questioning if this is the job for her. Hopefully this will give her second thoughts that it wasn't all just me.