What else could I have done?

[antlers]

GAL's and 180's for me include...
a. going to the gym after work and when the weather is too bad to ride.
b. riding my mountain bikes (bicycles) on days that aren't conducive to road riding.
c. riding my road bikes on (bicycles) good days to ride.
d. doing these things with friends whenever I can.
e. putting forth effort to be a good friend to others.
f. having a relationship with my brother, who I was estranged from for about the last 12 years.
g. putting forth more effort to spend times with friends.
h. dressing better.
i. trying to be less confrontational, less critical, and more calm and relaxed.
j. trying tio be more happy and upbeat.
k. trying to be easier to be around, talking more softly, stop monopolizing conversations.
l. trying to be more consistent and kind.
m. trying to earn the trust of my kids.
n. stop wallowing in the past.
o. creating moments of love with my kids.
p. not letting one word of criticism out of my mouth ever again around my kids.
q. letting go of the past and showing myself and my kids that I'm not the same man I used to be.

Actions speak louder than words. If I make consistent changes, even small ones, maybe over time they'll believe in my changes and trust them.

My son has told me that he actually likes talking to his counselor, and he told my brother that he's OK going to counseling. She comes out to see him at school on a regular basis now.

I feel confident that I can and will change much more. I've done a lot of changing already. I do believe my changes will matter. I intend to give the kids small doses without expectations...over long periods of time. And hopefully, over time, things will improve.