Lostadrift, Your posts will take awhile to show up while in moderation. This is normal. Use the time to read other threads to gain insight into what other people are doing and how they post. Post often, and not only in your own thread. Offer empathy and support if nothing else in other peoples threads.
This does a couple of things for you. It changes your mindset seeing other people’s pain similar to your own. It engenders a sense of community. It permits the Mods to build trust. Many people here are emotionally vulnerable and moderation acts as a shield for some of them.
I perceive a lot of anger in your thread. While this is normal it does not assist you. Ideally it should be let go as you detach from the emotions of this situation. If you cannot let it go find a constructive way of venting it. Not at your W or in this situation.
Have you gotten a copy of DR or DB and read them?
What are your W’s main complaints and what have you done to address them? What are your 180s?
What are you doing to detach and GAL
Early on it is it normal to get wrapped up in what is happening to oneself and the unfairness of it all. We all need to move past this initial reaction, acknowledge our part in this debacle, and do the work to change ourselves from the person our spouses are running from and into the person they would be a fool to leave.
Lastly and please do not take this personally your posts would much easier to read if they were broken up into smaller paragraphs.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
