I was composing this when you posted your reply, so just to reinforce what you already said:
Originally Posted By: labug
If you are doing this to prove to her you've changed, you may fail.
labug is absolutely right. If your motive is to get your W back, she'll sniff it out in an heartbeat, and dismiss your changes immediately.
I don't believe one can entirely remove rescuing our M as a motivation, but you really need to focus on self improvement.
When my eldest D graduated from med. school, she and I took a trip to Southeast Asia. There wasn't a day that went by when I didn't wish W was with us, but I put it out of my mind and throughly enjoyed an exotic trip with my D.
This was a big 180 for me. It was my biggest shot at GAL, and I'll always have fond memories of that trip.
Maybe one day, W and I will take a trip together, but I'm not holding my breath.
You need to have a life without your W, and maybe some day, she'll want back in. But you have to become the best leopoldstotch you can be for your own sake. And you have to be your own person. Also for your own sake.
