You've made great changes. You've looked inside yourself and really done the hard work. It seems your W is not willing to do that, she's looking outside herself for the next thing that will make her feel good. Is she able to realize that her happiness is up to her? If she doesn't, would you still want a relationship with her?
I'm in a very similar situation. I now like myself (not quite love myself, yet) and my changes now are for me. If H comes around and wants to continue the marriage, I have non-negotiable conditions, one being MC. I'm not the cause of all his unhappiness and if he's not willing to look inside himself we would not have a healthy relationship.
I've had this sign hanging in my BR since the S: "We are separated because the relationship wasn't working. To have a healthy relationship both people need to be open to honestly discussing their strengths and weaknesses and be ready, willing and able to make changes and adjustments."
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
