And this is why detachment is important. When you're not detached you strive to do things to make your W happy, rather than simply doing what makes you happy and letting that settle out. Would you have liked to eat a homemade breakfast that morning? If so, then you should have. Let her make it, she offered. Instead you shut her down AND went hungry... where's the win in that?
It's not your job to make your W happy, it's her job. She offered to make you breakfast and you took it upon yourself to make her happy by not having her make breakfast. But how would you know that makes her happy? You're not her.
Christmas Day my W offered to let me take a nap. Normally I would've said no, you take one. Instead I took it. It actually annoyed her that I did it, but so what? She's a big girl and can deal with it. And you know what? She did and figured out a way we both got naps. That made us both better off in the long run. But trust me... my heart was in my throat as I took her offer of taking a nap since it was so counter to what I have always done.
Married 6 together 8 Me:38 W:31 second marriage for both SS12, SD10, S6 Bomb: 9/8/11 (day before our 5 yr ann) W moved out: 2/18/12 D final: 11/12/12 Share S 50/50. Spend as much time as I can with SS & SD
