I've reached the point where I truly believe my marriage is a thing of the past. I still have twinges but I try to igore them. My main concerns now are my kids and my finances. So I have two questions. One is about parenting: Co-parenting or parallel parenting? I think at this point I'm parallel parenting. Works for now. Talking to my ex still makes me sick to my stomach and we didn't communicate while married so why would that change now? The other is how does everyone make ends meet? Right now I work part time with hours that fluctuate and also receive child support and alimony. The alimony is only for five years but as long as he pays its a good cushion for me until I get back on track. I also get a portion of his retirement pay until either I remarry or he dies. However, I want to become self sufficient which I'm not.
