I have a small 2 x 4 for you. I recall when you first came here too. You may have only said "so divorce me!" a few times to your w, but you also said "so leave me" or "this is pointless" or words to that effect.
As a wife, to ME, that means "I don't care enough to change the way I act, so deal with it...and btw that means I will not change at all!".
Her recent overtures maybe lost something in the translation but after she cooked you or made you some food &offered it, you said you had already eaten and left the room
and she seemed annoyed and THEN YOU said "I can't make this stuff up"!!! (???)
your wife could have written that last line b/c to ME, she made a positive gesture and b/c you blew it with your clueless reply (why not force yourself to taste it or at least make a big deal about her considerate gesture?)
but your comment about "can't make this up" bemused me. How ironic of YOU to say it, when I thought it was YOU who seemed so odd in that situation.
Your w was kind to you and you blew her off and then acted like SHE was nutty...so, how will you interact in your next r? AND what efforts have you made with your wife in the past several months OTHER than SAYING WORDS about wanting to work things out?
what have you DONE differently? I am tired so maybe that's the reason but I cannot think of one thing you are doing that is different,
other than making the most minimal sounding attempts at conversation, like asking her if she had a good day at dinner and getting the silent treatment from her, but that is not a big grand gesture on your end.
Rick we both know there's no way your w is divorcing you b/c you said the divorce word in fights "a few times" or "lost your temper 5-6 times in 25 years" (which you posted to Antlers or someone here.)
I don't buy that. Unless you mean you hit her, then I don't think anyonen leaves a marriage b/c of blow ups that happen every half decade.
What's with these revisions now? It's like how you skim over your lack of r's with your sons from a previous r....you never even told us that til late in the game and slipped it out as a reason for YOUR anger at your w or ex w or someone you blamed for your r with them...
which I think is NOT healthy
and you still skimp on looking at that.
Rick You are NOT learning the lessons you could be and you are issing a real opportunity this painful experience is offering you.
make the pain worth it and learn how to do better.
When you know better, you will do better.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
