What Do I Do? Help!

[leopoldstotch]

Thank you hopeful and ANS. ANS I guess at this point I have to figure out what I need to do show her or prove to her that I'm done being the way that I was. I have to pick myself up because lately I have really been feeling down because I have blamed myself for the sitch we are in.

I have been following some of the LRT such as not telling her that I love her. I now know that gifts are out since she herself told me she feels I'm trying to buy her love. Funny how when I tell her that I'm going out she asks where I'm going. If I tell her out she asks me why the secret and then I end up telling her where I am going. I must say the she does tell me where she is going and what she is doing.

You are right I need to go back to who I was in the begining of our R. I was a loving boyfriend to her show her appreciation etc.
I guess I'm treading a fine line here and my sitch may be different than some here. It seems as though I'm dealing with my W being very hurt about how I treated her and neglected her and took her for granted in the past. I have to show her that these changes are real and permanent.

Any ideas about how to be a better H for without pushing myself on her is appreciated.