He has put blame on me, on them and 3 times,on D16(13 at the time). That is why she always stay behind. She has alot of resentment towards him. She had wrote him a 6 pages letter that she threw inside his truck because when she handed it to him, he yelled at her: " Don't start with me, i have enough bull [censored] to deal with! I don't need yours!" She cried and threw the letter in his truck.
( Now, his hurt so she pays! ) He comes in and goes to her room. about 15 minutes later, he comes out with an angry but spiteful look and leaves. D13 is crying her eyes out. Here is what he told her: " You know, it takes 2 people to make things work. Me and your mom should have settled this a long time ago but we didn't. That's why things just kept adding up and i got tired of it. You wanna know something? Me and your mom almost split up before and we were super close of doing it but i found out she was pregnant with you. I felt like i had to stay. Not for her but for you. You brought us closer but over the years, i realized i made a mistake. You were the only thing keeping me home and that is why i'm always miserable and grumpy. Then, we had your brother and your 2 sisters and i kept asking myself... how long should i live like this? And i got sick of it. That's why i feel like this."
Now, in my 13 yo daughter, this is what she heard: It's because of me! That's the message in this. It's my fault. If it wasn't for me been born, my dad wouldn't of been unhappy all these years.
She cried the whole time and he didn't held her, didn't show love, in her words, he didn't give a sh*t!
She also kept a journal to express her feelings. This happened at bomb drop. He has never apologized to her, instead, repeated the story 2 more times to her after having his feeling hurt by her. Now, he wonders what is wrong with her. Why she doesn't care to spend time with him. I WONDER?
