VC I don't plan on having it out or giving it to her. Though I could like MWD on facebook and see if that does anything. When I first bought DB I went to the website first. Watched MWD videos and this is where I learned about WAW syndrome. So I copied and pasted a bunch of links together and emailed them to her. I looked her square in the eye told her what I did and asked her to please watch them. I doubt she did. Cause in the book and on here people told me it was a bad idea. This is why I also told and emailed the link to the girl I spoke with on Monday. Maybe she will look it over and tell my W that I am working to fix me and all this.
So, no matter what advice you get to NOT do something, you will do it anyhow? And so far, that has not helped you. ANd you still wonder about what? "making" her read it? And then what? "Making" her come home? I have a hard time wanting to post long notes to you b/c I fear they will not reach you.
you are Not getting it...this is about changing YOU, not her. Can you see that?
Tonight is another rough night. Kids are here felt myself not wanting to be around them though. Mostly because I know if they are at home she has to pay attention to them and not OM. Now they are with me for 5 days she can go do whatever.
Wow...Um, let me get this straight...
so YOUR pain and hurt ego are more important than the happiness of your kids, or your time with them or your role as a father? See, the irony here is that one of the biggest turn ons for women is the loving interaction of their children with their father. Don't blow this.
They're the most important relationships in your life and they affect your marriage too. I find this statement of yours very telling.
Focus on why your needs are the most important ones AND whether that was an issue in your marriage. I think it was, and it has NOT changed...
Hopefully this guy will shoot himself in the foot and ruin everything by getting too drunk on newyears. The way my luck has been is not going to happen. In fact I was informed that he is drinking less now. Great he is sobering up.
what are YOU doing? Less about him, all about you and your kids...
Also found out from my W that she is the talk of my condo building. My guess is a downstairs neighbor saw her coming or going from OM apartment and started to talk about it. There are also two other ladies that used to talk with us all the time and now ignore her. Guess they liked me more.
IGNORE ALL THIS.^^^^..IT HELPS NO ONE...NO ONE...
Need to get out of this funk so going to take kids to mcdonalds tomorrow night and go to the gym with them. Should help some. Get those endorphines going.
Other problem is still picturing him with her in my mind in a way. And watching tv seeing things that remind me of things we did together or touched each other, or cuddled in bed. Not a fun night.
GAL asap. YOU CREATE WHAT IS IN YOUR LIFE...MAKE IT A FUN NIGHT.
Do you know what that really means? Meet new people. Change your attitude.
When I lived in the interior of Alaska and NOT around a big city, here are some things I did. Only a few cost much.
I joined a writer's group
Auditioned for plays and got roles and met cool new people
Did stand up comedy Volunteered at a women's shelter and got on the Board of Director's Volunteered at the kid's school Took flying lessons and got a pilot's license
Went skydiving
Joined the Officer's Wives Club
Took a pottery class (way out of my normal activities)
Was PTA president (might not do that again)
learned how to hunt and fish (H's interests but I got into it too)
took archery lessons, and firearms shooting lessons
worked out a LOT and got in great shape,
saw a shrink, and took meds for the winters
took a French class, went to financial seminars, & took a cooking class
Took a trip to Italy with the kids and had a great time, NOT thinking of h much at all DO something that does not remind you of your w at all.
Bowl, play baseball or just do something she has nothing to do with...
more later on your family stuff. Sounds like you have no boundaries with them and they with you.
Do NOT INVITE THEIR COMMENTS and tell them that nicely...
"I'm not inviting comment on that, but thanks for your support"...
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
