I probably broke every rule on DBing today, but frankly I got to a point where I needed to ask the question...
I sent H a text today asking how the move and everything was going.. he responded with a short "lots of challenges" but nothing he cant handle...
Then I sent "so when exactly where you going to tell me about your relationship with the former "roommate" he lost it on me and said there is no relationship they are just friends, they were hanging out alot with each other and that is it.. but since he doesnt want to play games lets just file for divorce...
I sent back "fine if that is what you want, but I am not playing games, it was a valid question, I said I was truly tying to understand all of this."
I sent a sep text saying I dont want a divorce. He then sent a text stating how he has no money, no plates or silverware, needs to catch up his car payment and doesnt even have a microwave, he needs to buy groceries and doesnt see how he is going to be able to afford to see D in the next couple of weeks, though he misses her so much.
I sent back a text stating that I respected him for what he was doing, as far as moving to keep a job, and I value him for doing it, if he would just talk to me we could figure out some way to get d and him together, I also said that i had plates and silverware which were his too, I said I didnt understand how come he feels as though he has to do this all alone. He never brought up the divorce again, but I feel like it is coming.
I dont know what to do, he hasnt responded to my last text and I am not going to text or call, it is the first "real" communication he and I have had in months. other than friendly exchanges and I am not afraid of divorce anymore and I think I made that clear. A huge 180 for me.. heck confronting about the relationship with roommate was a 180 also. I dont usually ask questions that I may not like the response to...
He has always used the divorce as a weapon to break me down, I faced it head on today and he didnt push it.. maybe thats a good thing? Any thoughts friends?
m 41 h 44 d 17 (prev marriage) d 9 Never give up!!!!!
