The not so Waste Land

[25yearsmlc]

your last 2 lines say it all

you think she may want in, but there seems to be a block but you don't know what it is.

I bet She doesn't know either. Maybe it's the unknown of how to rebuild a marriage. Most people in our world DO NOT rebuilt their m's, they end them and get new fresh ones...

I definitely think you need to make sure she's not feeling weird at work for things you did NOT do...

(if she has the paper work to show you didn't call her mentor, it'll also help HER at work, won't it?)

And I don't think Retrovaille is too soon. For one thing, the follow up program, which I HIGHLY recommend b/c one weekend won't fix all your stuff or last -

but the follow up DOES keep it going and it lasts for months...

seems to me that you'll get some tools for your marriage which you presently lack

and your mc is not providing you yet. It's hard to make a lot of progress with weekly meetings anyhow, b/c when I'd make a break through in therapy

I'd have to go home to the babies or back to work and I'd forget half of how I got to the breakthrough or the inisght. The next week I'd have to start all over.

My point is that even the best of mc's cannot compete with a full weekend of focussed work.

Good luck!