I just read through your other thread, and I only have one piece of advice for you.
You need to detatch!
Your W is pulling away from you. She is seeking outside help (counceling), and you are not involved in that process.
She's on an emotional roller coaster right now, and obviously doesn't want your input. There's nothing you can do to influence her.
Sorry, my friend, but at this point, there's nothing you can do except to concentrate on yourself. I know it bites, but you have to go with the flow.
Try not to analyze things too much. I know that it's not easy, but you're driving yourself nuts with speculation.
Instead of "waiting for my W to call the counselor" work on something you CAN control. I.e.: work on YOU!
Five years ago, your W fell in love with you. She has forgotten why she fell in love with you.
Without pushing it on her, remind yourself what it is she fell in love with you. I bet some of those things have kinda slid away. Maybe you can come up with some 180's to bring them back.
But as you turn these things around, bear in mind that you absolutely should not put any pressure on her. If she senses that you're making any changes to get her back, her reaction will not be the one you're looking for.
