Ctflor, H has told me that too. But in situations like ours, sometimes its them who have to step up. I know i cant fix HIS kids. I have no power there. I can see my H running, just packing up and leaving us all. He is at that point.
Me - 38, 2nd M, no living children, 1 forever 6 yr old boy H - 44, 3rd M, twins 16
Dating 4/07 M 10/08 Bomb #1 12/10 Bomb #2 1/11 Bomb #3 12/11
Also, I do relate to being in emotional hell while my h pulled the strings. It can only go on so long, and that is where GAL and detaching came into play. It did help quite a bit.
Of course its a fantasy he will wake up and man up and beg me not to go, sign up for counseling, fix all this and be the man i fell in love with. Yes, i want that. But i dont count on it, expect it or even dare hope for it and certainly not planning my life around it. My H is not that type of guy to swallow his pride and put me first. :-(
Me - 38, 2nd M, no living children, 1 forever 6 yr old boy H - 44, 3rd M, twins 16
Dating 4/07 M 10/08 Bomb #1 12/10 Bomb #2 1/11 Bomb #3 12/11
H came up to me and handed me paperwork for insurance renewel. He is threatening me to remove my health insurance if I dont put a vehicle in his name. Can he do that?
It all out war here now, he is being a complete jerk. Hour long R talk and he has insulted me, my family, there is no hope, etc.
How can i love someone i hate so badly right now?
Me - 38, 2nd M, no living children, 1 forever 6 yr old boy H - 44, 3rd M, twins 16
Dating 4/07 M 10/08 Bomb #1 12/10 Bomb #2 1/11 Bomb #3 12/11
Hope it is time to seek legal advice. 1st consults are usually free. He does not need to know about the visit. He is as passive aggressive as it gets. I did crapp like that too, not that bad but similar. Every state is different but not sure why he wants the vehicle switched to his name? And if you get sick and have no insurance he will be responsible for the debt too. H is not thinking clearlyl
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
He wants it in his name because both vehicles are in my name. The house was his before we got married, though it did just go through HAMP. We bought the truck together and 3 pieces of furniture. Everything else is his. I gave up all my stuff because his was nicer and he hated mine. Now he wants the truck and furniture and house and everything.
Me - 38, 2nd M, no living children, 1 forever 6 yr old boy H - 44, 3rd M, twins 16
Dating 4/07 M 10/08 Bomb #1 12/10 Bomb #2 1/11 Bomb #3 12/11
Big change! Good luck to you. Beware the rollercoaster.
H 51, W 46 no kids T 22 years M 17 years ILBNILWY 2/10 1st D talk 6/10 partial recovery W files D 5/11 long distance separation 8/11 moving forward on D 10/11 legal separation complete 1/2012
