Wow...this separation is "on" and man, is this going to be hard.
Had been trying to get through the week but we took our kids to ice skate (neither of us were skating) and she brought up wanting to stay a few days with her friend (not her OM "friend", but who even knows at this point - her friend recently ended a long-term relationship and has her own place) and that's when all of this stuff pored out of me (in public, no less - not my finest moments) - just told her very pointedly that I will not accept any OM contact and that she has known that for a while and that finding out a few weeks ago that she had seen him was the last straw for me and that I couldn't be with someone that doesn't tell the truth.
She then asked what that means and I said we need to go forward with separating...I did ask her if she saw anything else that could be done at this point, and she agreed she didn't.
she is going to go to her "friend's" for a few days and I'll have my boys, so will get a small dose of what single parenthood will feel like...just still very sad for my boys thinking about what is going to unravel over the next few months.
just amazing that she isn't taking any ownership of this (but i guess that's what WAW/MLCs do)...she could have averted this but for whatever reason the pull of this OM (and an "independent" life) is taking precedence over everything else.
will probably be good to have a few days away from each other (for both of our sanity) - it has been very uncomfortable the last few days...have some fun stuff planned with my boys (and need to get some work done)!
am glad this is "out there" now (having held this in the last week) but man, this is going to be hard.
