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[kolja]

I'm certainly grateful for the better attitude I've gained through the last few week's eduation, reflection and growth. This latest interaction would have really bothered the old me. It's certainly discouraging (though i'm not sure it was a FULL two steps back - time, of course, will tell) but I'm not taking it personally.

Mediation seems like it would be less adversarial than going the full-blown lawyer route. At SOME point she has to confront the fact that, unless she resorts to outright extortion, she's not going to get the golden parachute out of this she seems to expect - but if someone ELSE gets to point that out to her, so much the better for me (and whatever hopes there remain for 'us'). If nothing else, throwing the suggestion out there may slow the momentum even further, giving me more time.

I saw some pictures from her Christmas with her family and some of the pre-wedding festivities with her sister, and in THOSE settings she still wears her ring. I havent seen it in over a month, so if nothing else I was relieved she hand't sold it or tossed it off the bridge. But something another friend last night had told me was that my wife seemed very confused - that certainly seems like it might be the case.

At the very least, no more going down cheeseless tunnels and making things worse out of me...