When an image of my H and ow would enter my mind, I would say NO! and shake my head as if to clear the thoughts. I could not let it stay in my mind for my own sanity. It took a lot of time before I was able to do that, though. Use some of the time to do fun stuff for you. I also, at first, before I learned to cope, tried retail therapy, which ran up a lot of debt. So, don't go shopping!! It doesn't help at all. I had a twenty thousand dollar limit on my card, and dang near made it. vc
