Thanks sunshine!! I hate that so many of us are here, but in some odd way it helps to not be alone in this.
I am finally focused on what makes me happy and no longer trying to fix him. I can't and really don't want to fix him. He is doing nothing productive to help himself or for that matter be the best him for our kids. He is doing everything destructive. I don't want a part of that. My kids need me to be strong for them.
