OK I got a Christmas photo from xh. Don't ask me what was in in it because I deleted it. Which bit of 'we are divorced, and you never used to do Christmas photos anyway' does he not get? Not upset about it, just bemused. For some reason my children didn't get this particular treat.
I find him a bit of an embarassment these days, if I am honest. A sort of 'OMG was I really married to this guy?' I am still fond of him, he can still irritate me, but mostly he seems a bit irrelevant.
Yes, I was heart broken, but that was in the past, and I want to enjoy my future. I suspect he is ogng to go on doing strange and idiotic things, partly because as Snodderly pointed out, these people cannot admit they made a mistake. So it is all about shoring up, in their own mysterious way, their view of the world.
Your EX getting treatment is wonderful news. Sounds as though that maybe the treatment is starting to take affect. I have to wonder if realizing that part of the reason he was feeling and doing as he has propelled him to get checked out?
I truly believe my H has low T levels, too. Has all the symptoms in spades. In fact I think he knows it too, but is not willing to do anything about getting it checked out. Maybe he has gotten comfortable being miserable?
I don't think that hormones are the sole cause of MLC, but I believe them being messed up could sure add to a crisis in progress.
I think you're handling everything just fine. Just keep expectation at zero and protect yourself from getting sucked in. You'll know for sure when he emerges.
I do believe you are the winner of mixed signals, Congragulations...OMG is all I have to say, from the ex and kids
M54 H54 married 30 years Prostitues and Other women "100's" 10/7/2004 Prostitue/Junkie girlfriend 6/04-1/07? Left 1/5/05 returned 1/9/05 Asked h to leave 4/2005 Had to, prostitues OW 5/2005 not a prostitue Divorced 9/2006
I don't want to be the winner, but yes my ex was way out there. Even though he seems like he is improving, the bottom line is he is still with bimbo.....
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Oh and by the way ... my ex is still with the tramp too. Everytime he gets a few feet away, he gets reeled back in with gifts, her family (in which he has become overinvested) and other distractions related to her.
It is what it is and my life moves on ... yours should continue to as well. They made their beds, now lie in them. LOL
I don't want to win this contest, but here is another entry:
My H took OW and her visiting S22 sailing on our boat the other day. I watched him pack up a cooler. Then he circled around the kitchen a few times, then asked me could he take some home-made sugar cookies I had out. (I make up many, then put them in containers to give to friends and family for Christmas)
I said: "Sure, go right ahead." Inside I was thinking that would sure be a mixed-signal for OW. He reported back she and her son thought they were the best cookies ever, and the one cookie left out of 28 that were in the container is further proof.......
Anyway, as my hero Dave Barry says: I can't make this stuff up!
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
Wen, OMG, you must be made of steel not to have shoved the cookies you no where....
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
