Like Two Sparrows in a Hurricane (1)

[MAL]

Thanks adinva,

The perspective is helpful. I don’t feel like I’ve been writing my thoughts very well and having a hard time expressing myself. Mostly because I was rushed in trying to respond to posts.

I didn’t mean the connection from just lately, but more of the one we’ve had for 4 years. I was just trying to respond to the question on what it was that I liked in RC. And that was the best way I could describe it (for lack of time and words at the moment). Infatuation is normal in a new relationship (although this isn’t what I would consider a new R…maybe just getting to know each other all over again) and the chemicals that are flowing in the initial stages of a R, it can make us feel a lot of things. But I know that time passes and that “in love” feeling isn’t the same. I also know that R’s and M’s take a lot of work. My parents have been married for almost 60 years, and I know that it hasn’t always been easy. But they have loved and respected each other through it all. I know that today M’s that lasts that long doesn’t happen as much, but I still hold hope that it’s possible.

Do I think that RC is that 60 year guy? I won’t even pretend that I know the answer to that question. I think he is worth the effort to figure that out.

Regarding communication, it’s hard to say that I’ve been able to crack that code. The conversations we’ve had have in recent weeks have been more fun and light. I can’t say that I’ve been able to work on an R communication. But I have been open with him about some things in me that I never shared with him before. I’m also doing a much better job at listening to him and his interests. That is something I picked up on immediately and have tried to look for ways to change they pattern.

Regarding the sexual areas, I can just go back to the same answer I gave for communication. Of course I’m not talking to him about that topic in the friendship state we have, but it’s something we would need to discuss. But if we don’t have improved communication, it won’t really matter.

You have all made a lot of good points. IF (and that is a big IF) we were to get an opportunity to work on our R again, there are things we need to work through. And maybe we could make it better next time. I appreciate the input.