You do have a point although your sig line says it .... anything you say will be used against you no matter what. Maybe to close the issue, if I were Harrier I would just print out the statement, then leave it on my W's desk or dresser, but not say anything about it. No discussions, no trust talk, no asking for the "I'm sorry" ....especially if the WAS is still in an indecisive state it may drive them away again, prolong the process.
I've tried many different ways of bringing up things that bug me with my H. As each day passes in our piecing, he gets more stable and able to handle deeper convo in small increments, but early on, he would just ask me not to talk. Its hard for them to admit they are wrong, and attempts from us to prove we are right are perceived as criticism and being unforgiving. Many times my H just asked me for time, for me to take it slowly, one step at a tme, as he still felt that his sanity would slip away if I piled the whole thing on him at once. Slowly, he is starting to admit his wrongs, and I am confident that the day will come that we can be fully open and trusting once again.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
