So the past few days have been very awkward as we try to move into this next phase.

Both days when he came home from work, he kissed me and hugged me, but then went up to his room for the rest of the evening. Yesterday he sent a text telling me to have a good day. I went out for my run last night and when I came back, we sat down to talk.

He shared:
1. He has an apartment that he rented a month ago. He had the power turned on. When he went to the furniture store- he picked out furniture, but then said he couldn't pay for it. Leading him to think he really needed to try a final time to make this work.

2. He told me that he didn't love me anymore and that he didn't know if he could get that back. After all that has happened, that still hurt me to hear.

3. He told me that he would never go back to the church we attend. He told me has has his own relationship with God, but that no church was going to tell him how to live his life and how to spend his money, etc. Without my faith over these past four months, I would be in the loony bin, and I am not willing to compromise on this. I am just going to continue to pray that God changes his heart on this.

4. He told me he is still going to counseling (I thought he had stopped.) But that he wasn't ready to share with me all that was going on with him. His counselor is on vacation this week, and he said she doesn't even know of his decision to stay. He is going to call her next week to see if she is ready to see us as a couple.

5. He also said that he doesn't see how any of his behavior these past few months is effecting the kids. He blamed my son's anger and outbursts on the boy next door.

Needless to say I am very leery of this new him. I want to hope that this will work, but I am very skeptical. I am just going to continue going on with my plans and trusting God for guidance, and let H make the moves. UGH! This is what I wanted- to try to work on the marriage, but it seems so much more difficult now that it is here!!


Me:37 H:44
M:13 T:17
S:8 D:9
H living in spare bedroom since 9/5/11