Asking for Help / Advice Please Part 2

[sunshine76]

I'll just have to stop talking to her for a while I guess. The thing is, I'm so afraid that that's exactly what she wants me to do and she will never text or call or come back if I do that.

Hey Edgarb, I am in a similar sitch except I still live with W (definetely positives and negatives to both).

I completely understand your fear that she will never text or call you if you cut off communication. I have the exact same fears. The fact of the matter is that they know where we live, have our phone number... if they want to contact us they will, but as of right now our W's want nothing to do with us and the sooner that we can start to wrap our minds around this the sooner we will be able to begin detaching. Don't get me wrong I am no where near being detached. I still haven't been able to figure out how to do it. But, I realize that right now I need to do everything in my power to protect myself from getting hurt even more by all of this. If you reach out to her and she doesn't respond it is just going to make you feel even more hurt, sad, angry than you do right now.

I know this all totally suxs, but in my opinion the sooner we realize that we cannot control their choices the easier it is going to be for us to start detaching a little bit.

Hang in there!