Rebuilding myself from the ground- up

[AntoniaB]

As for XH, he has a hold on me. I don't like who i am around him. I abuse him as much as he does. I have been pushed to far. I have to keep off the rollercoaster for my own welfare (and his).


I copied this part because I wanted to tell you that I feel like I only revert to my "old ways" of passive-aggressive or downright mean/vindictive when I interact with XH and it isn't going "well" as I define "well." (I haven't interacted with him in a long time now...)

I don't have this problem with anyone else. I think sometimes we have a very hard time erasing the dynamic we had with the ex. If you recognize that in your interactions with others you are not on this rollercoaster, then you have "less" work to do there, you know?

I like your resolution and your push to make yourself a better person. This is really the path we all have to take, to learn that despite whatever we've done, we can always improve!

I don't really have any more "advice" to give you but wanted you to know that I read your post. I'm sure we'll talk in the new year :-)