Someone please talk me of this ledge! My H continues to date his girlfriend while still making kind gestures, showing affection to me and sending me mixed messages. I found out that while I was on the cruise he went over to her house for Christmas eve. They continue to see each other, go out on dates, etc. I've kept my mouth shut with the exception of back in October when I noticed his budding friendship with her and asked her if they were dating. He denied it and then afterwards, he became very cold and distant with me and stopped contacting me for a while.
Normally, I wouldn't let this bother me. But this time around it hurts because he has been a lot more affectionate with me, showing interest, contacting me, inviting me to do things, etc. And I guess I allowed myself to hope that perhaps he was finally coming around. I've let my guard down, so now I feel like he is playing me...going out with his girlfriend while still stringing me along.
Today he invited me to go out to the movies with him tomorrow night. Should I act as if nothing is going on? What I really feel like doing is confronting him and telling him I'm not going to continue to go out with him while he is still going out with his girlfriend. My mind tells me this would be counterproductive and would set back the progress we've made so far. My heart tells me that he is using me and cake eating and I'm allowing it to happen.
Please talk some sense into me. I can't take this pain. Just yesterday he wanted to ML with me. Why is he pursuing me while still very much dating his girlfriend? I'm hurt and confused. I'm afriad I will say something stupid when I see him tomorrow.
Sorry for the rant. I just need to get this off my chest.
M:12yr 06/11:IDLYA 07/11:Moves out 08/11:PA disc(began in May) 09/11:Moves w OW 10/11:Breaks up w OW;gets apt 11&12/11: Touchngo w me 1/12: Comes home-PA resumes 2/12: PA disc; PA ends Today: Piecing