WHG: When last we heard from our action hero...

[workinghardguy]

Thanks 25... As I reread my post I know I sounded fairly chappy and competitive, but that's not really how I feel most of the time.

I actually believe my W is doing the best she can right now. Is it enough? Not really, but it is what she can give from where she is at. I know I find myself constantly having to defend her to my mother. My mom sees the imbalance and feels I'm being taken advantage of. I simply point out that I am choosing to do this... I could move out tomorrow if I wanted to.

In some ways I am grateful for the "blend" of our family; with two step-kids and a son together. If all three were my kids I very well could see my W taking off and not looking back. If all three were step-kids I'm certain they would all have been gone a long time ago and my W likely would have little to do with me.

Our family blend at least forces my W into a narrower path. The last thing she would ever do is let her XH have SS and SD, so those options are severely limited. And she wants me in my son's life and knows I would fight her to no end if she threatened that, so that limits her options as well.