"About the phone thing, don't bring it up again. It will just bring up bad feelings. A friend once told me that if you make a big deal of something, then it will become a big deal."

I have to disagree on this point. The W made a BIG deal about this to begin with with all the calls and texts and accusations. It is a trust issue that really shouldn't be swept under the rug.

If the matter is approached in a careful way without any attempt at score settling then I think it can actually help to strengthen the trust issues they are working to improve.

If Harrier raises the matter and no action is taken to by his W to prove/disprove THEN I would let it drop after that.

Just my perspective of course.

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It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.

Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife