My mom moved across the state three years ago. She used to be four hours away, now she's 30 minutes away. She did this to be closer to my SS, SD, and S. This year was the first year we visited her on Christmas Eve. It's not like the past two years we couldn't have visited her, but my W worked those Christmas Eves so we didn't. This year W worked as well, but my GAL worldview let me see that I could go be independent of my W. In previous years we didn't go because W couldn't go. I was so enmeshed in my W's identity I didn't even go see my mom on Christmas Eve. That's pretty pathetic...
Second realization... my W is so absorbed in herself it's unreal... On Christmas Eve we had that little flare up about child care and moving. She misunderstood something I said; when all I was referring to was who was going to do child care this week when the kids are off of school, she works, and I work. Later that night when we were talking she apologized for the flare up. Then she said "I didn't even realize the kids were off of school this whole week" WTF?? Seriously?? It didn't occur to you that your three children were off between Christmas and New Year's? The words on the calendar that say "NO SCHOOL" didn't clue you in? The fact that I asked you three times last week about how we wanted to handle child care was lost on you? Wow... just wow.
She is so tied up in her little world right now that her kids being off of school for a week "snuck up" on her. Guess I better start reminding her in April that school ends in June...
Married 6 together 8 Me:38 W:31 second marriage for both SS12, SD10, S6 Bomb: 9/8/11 (day before our 5 yr ann) W moved out: 2/18/12 D final: 11/12/12 Share S 50/50. Spend as much time as I can with SS & SD
