Simply put, we had an awesome christmas (with one hiccup). We went to CO to spend 7 days with our families. We did a lot of fun stuff as a family - sledding, going to the museum, shopping, dinners out, etc. I took a lot of 25s advice and tried to put things on hold and just enjoy my family, wife, kids.
I found out that GAL is 1000 times easier being around my family and in my old hometown. One night my son and I spent the night with my brother. We went bowling and just hung around. It was very easy to keep any focus off my wife and I think it help my wife relax a lot even thought I was was physically around her quite a bit.
A few odds and ends. My wife spent a ton of time around my mother for some reason. I can't quite explain it. It's not like they were good friends before - they always had a cordial relationship. But my W went above and beyond - she even spent the night at her house with my other son instead of spending the night with her parents. She also had lunch and dinner with her alone. Very unusual (I would love to get a woman's take on this if any)
We spent part of Christmas eve with my wife's extended family. Two of her female cousins are about my W's age. Both are unmarried and not in relationships. they are both attractive, but look older than their age. My W made the comment "I would hate to be in their shoes still looking for someone."
She also talked about me moving back - asking a couple of times if I had told my landlord yet. Then she made a joke about what I could tell him.
We also slept in the same bed during the whole trip even though I could've take the couch at a couple of places.
The hiccup. on Thursday (the night I spent at my brothers) I looked at my phone and saw about 6 calls from my W and 4 or so texts. All basically said the same thing "Call me." So I call her. She then says her mentor (best friend of the OM) called her and said "It looks like you called me from your Husband's phone." My W was really upset about this. She didn't want her boss/mentor to get freaked out because I was calling him and hanging up or worse like accusing him of something. the OM told the mentor about my call and visit to his office from last year (as detailed in a prior post )
The problem....I didn't call. I didn't even accidentally dial. When I finally got a hold of my W, I told her but she basically said she didn't believe me. I went over to my mom's house (to go sledding with the kids& cousins) and we went into another room to talk. She started again asking why I called. I kept saying I didn't . I show her my phone with the most recent calls (dialed and received) which she dismissed. I told her to check the phone records online and she said she would.
She told me that she didn't believe me when I said I didn't call. She was going to check the phone records and if she was wrong she said "I owe you a big apology"
She later acknowledged that her reaction was a bit overboard, but she felt it justified. She said that her mentor is a big part of the reason she is where she is and that she needs him professionally. A bit later she added that "I need you too. "
The phone records didn't update for a day. to this day I don't know if she looked at them or not, but she hasn't' apologized. I'm not going to pull an "I told you so" and bring it up.
Of course, when we got home late last night she goes into our bed room and I'm in the other room. I have about another month of the other place and I'm think I'm going to bring up sleeping in the same bed.....in due time of course.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
