You never know which it could be and honestly you shouldn't care which it is. Just keep your eyes on hers, so she knows you are serious about wanting to talk & listen. Once my W noticed that with me, the only time I would let my eyes wonder is when she would take her eyes off me, I would take a couple seconds to check her out(and oops she caught me oh darn) and look her back in the eyes.
M 33 W 29 S 4 M 5 T 7 11/7/11 Separation, W moves in with parents 12/1/11 W: "IDLY, I'm not coming back, it's over" 1/7/12 D Bomb Dropped
