Asking for Help / Advice Please Part 2

[CO1978]

As I said before, I am not the best for advice on OM, but here is my best:
You do need to cut off all contact, at least for a while. Let her be with OM right now. There is nothing you can say or do that will stop this from happening anyway. Hopefully she will see things in OM and realize the grass is not always greener. I remember when my W would go out with one of her best friends for coffee. I LOVED it. Her friend's boyfriend and their problems always had my W come home and thank me for being such a great H. No matter what WAS says about not having feelings for LBS they do have feelings, they are just buried. If we keep bothering our WAS the feelings just get buried deeper and deeper. By letting her alone she will start to compare OM to you and the feelings will start to come out again.
Again these are my opinions, not sure if others agree. I do know way back when I was in Marine Corps, my high school sweetheart used to cheat on me when ever I was away. When we broke up, she found other men, but always called me to tell me how I was better than them. Heck she did that for the next 10 years (even after she married and divorced). Recently she de-friended me on FB because she was in new relationship and wanted to let go of all her past.
I guess the moral of the story is some feelings never die. If you have time and patience, you can get through this. Make her SEE the changes in you next time she is around. Even if its not for a week or 2 or longer. The longer may be the better. Imagine her coming into house to see dogs and seeing the whole house looking different. The question is do you have it in you to wait? Only you can answer that, but you have to wait it out. I think pursuit in your case will only hurt you right now. Go GAL, take dogs out, make new friends (follow up on your plans!)