Feels like the bottom of 9th with 2 outs

[NYCPeter]

Thanks for the post on detachment - I know I need to do it, it's just so hard.

Girls have had a great Christmas - W and I are cordial no more than that. Nothing has been mentioned since the incident on Christmas Eve. I was going to post a couple of things that indicate she's still on the path of D - but that's not detachment, I need to ignore them and let her lead her life.

My sister arrives from London tomorrow and is staying for a week - I know we'll all be nice to each other but my W has already told me she is taking extra shifts at the restaurant while she is here. I can understand that she feels uncomfortable with my sister around, but what do I do when the girls go to bed. It's unfair on my sister as she'll be hanging around our house with the girls asleep. Outside of her parents - the only babysitter we have is out of town - her parents have made it clear that they won't be doing anything for me. I could try to get another babysitter - but having a special needs child most don't know how to handle them or get stressed. Guess the best way to handle it is to tell W - these are my plans and that if she is going to choose to work extra shifts, she'll need to find babysitting arrangements.