Hey CO, I am so proud of you! It sounds like you are truly becoming a man that your wife would be a fool not to love.

You need to get over the self-hatred. You have beat yourself up enough over this and you are making conscious decisions everyday to become a better person/spouse.

You are right that allowing our spouses to vent helps to build trust and a deeper connection. I made the mistake of not listening and not asking and now she has found someone that will do those things for her.

You are doing great! Keep it up smile


M:(f) 35
W: 45
3 dogs and 2 cats
T: 9 years
9/30/11 I love you, but I'm not in love with you
OW confirmed 12/23/11