Thanks Purgatory, I hate my "old" self for not really listening to her when she would want to vent. She would usually go outside or in the basement and chain smoke and talk on the phone and vent to her mom. I remember her even saying she just wanted someone to vent to, I think I was so burned out/stressed out that I didn't want anything else on my plate. I hope she sees I am here now for her, even if I only get 15-20 minutes a day to let her vent to me, its a start. I think our spouses venting to us helps them build up some trust, and trust is one of the biggest things needed for them to love us again. Keep up the good listening!
M 33 W 29 S 4 M 5 T 7 11/7/11 Separation, W moves in with parents 12/1/11 W: "IDLY, I'm not coming back, it's over" 1/7/12 D Bomb Dropped