First post, words of wisdom needed

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Hey Sunshine, just stopped in to check in on you and see how you are doing.

Is this what you were talking about? 2the point had posted it in another thread, maybe you can get some help by reading it also?

This was originally posted by Peanut.
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II. Detachment
Detachment is critical to the process of altering and repairing a relationship. Attached, we take personally all that is said, not said, done and not done. Our ego gets wounded and we are more inclined to those actions that will undermine our very best chances of accomplishing our goals. We can not control the actions of another. We are, however, responsible for our own actions. We are responsible for our own happiness. If we are detached from the actions of another, we can meet anger or indifference with love. Met with love we are in a position to diffuse the situation and transform it in a way that will be in alignment with our goals. On the flipside, detachment allows us to play it cool when we do get a positive reaction from our spouse. It is a way to break the distance/pursuer cycle.

Detachment is not withdrawal. It is not the mind saying, ‘I am not getting what I want so I must pull back.’ It is the natural acceptance that I am alone responsible for how I act. I can not control another person, but I can control how I respond to them."

I really need to figure out how to be ok with being alone. I have always absolutely hated it!!! The funny thing is that when I am put in a social setting I am a people magnet, for some reason I just don't allow myself to create relationships with these people. I know I need to get my a$$ back out there into the real world. You are right GALing by myself is something that I really need to do, if for no other reason than to prove to myself that YES I can stand on my own two feet and be happy and ok.

Again we are so much alike, I am right there with you. Can you ask yourself what is holding you back? Just go try something new, heck it doesn't have to be something you think you are interested in, just get out there.