Wife Has Finally Decided to Walk Away

[Greg1971]

I had to work the weekend of her brothers funeral and was out of town. She went out with friends and met up with her old HS boyfriend. I know all of this because I stumbled upon a diary she started around this time and I made the mistake of reading it. She stated something about how quickly the feelings from HS came back with exboyfriend. I said nothing about this and let it festr for three+ years which lead me down a road of jealousy where I would check her cell phone, emails etc... I kept finding things that would set me off and this ate me alive for the all this time. Due to this we developed some serious trust issues which are probably at the heart of all this.

I have been spending quality time with my kids as my 180 and making sure to get up early and help get them ready for school. Come home asap to help the kids with homework etc... She has noticed and appreciated this but it has not changed her feelings towards me at all according to her.

I coach for a living so it is not something I can really cut back although I have limited some of the time required this year to focus on the family. As she has told me numerous times lately, "too little, too late".

I'm trying to stay positive and have reached out to the church and anyone that can possibly give me positive insight into this matter.

Our therapist was very good I thought but not pro-marriage from what I can tell by the way she has handled my W decision to get out now.