Wife Has Finally Decided to Walk Away

[Greg1971]

Try this again. Wife has told me she feels nothing towards me. Doesn't love me or hate me. We were married and one year later our son was born on our anniversary. Her father passed away later that year and less than nine months later her younger brother passed away. She was very close to both her father and brother. Our daughter was conceived the week her brother died so nine months later she was born. She has been diagnosed with Lupus and had a serious leg injury January of 2011. Through all of this I have been there and tried my best to be there for her. The physical part of our relationship started to dwindle which made me bitter and I started to shut down emotionally. We went to a therapist this past November/December but she basically told the therapist that nothing has changed and she wants out. Her support group is a single mom who has never been married and two friends who are divorced. I'm trying the LRT while we are still living in the house together which is good and bad. She has told everyone what a change I have made with my children but she has no emotion when she tells them that. I'm on a dialy rollercoaster ride of emotions and keep putting my children first but she stays out until very late hours of the morning and our children wonder where she is. I know that for the past four years she has been in contact with an old boyfriend and some other guys but I don't think anything physical has taken place but that does not change the way this has made me feel. This is just killing me right now. I know if she would lower that emotional wall I could be what she has always wanted but she has set her mind on the grass being greener without me.