THE SHOW MUST GO ON

[MarieC]

My ex-husband (first time I've typed this - divorce was in August) just wrote me *four* emails yesterday after no real contact since divorce court, where he cried and held me for at least 5, maybe even 10 minutes. From the time he walked out for the first OW (March 2010) through the divorce, he only spoke with me twice and rarely emailed me. Yesterday he also got in touch with his college best friend (whom he'd dropped when he walked out of my life.)

I don't know if it's just the holiday (or booze + the holiday?) or if they are finding their way out of their MLCs (I have several friends who live in the same building as my ex and OW2 and they all say - from different apaprtments - that the screaming and yelling from my husband's and OW's place is so extreme that they have talked about calling the police. We never fought like that, not even once.) It's so hard to tell what is going on with them. He used to be such a kind, decent, thoughtful honest man - I don't know who this man is. Reading your story, I see so many parallels with what happened to me.

So, Trusting, I hope that your Christmas experience signals a real change, but I suspect Snodderly's right - we should both try to tamp down expectations... but maybe a little hope wouldn't be misplaced. :-)

Sending you a big hug and a LOT of hope for a much better 2012 for all of us here!