Glad you had a good time! Have you followed up with her since with a quick email or phone call to say you enjoyed the evening? Any reaction on her part?
Glad you had a good time! Have you followed up with her since with a quick email or phone call to say you enjoyed the evening? Any reaction on her part?
I had a first date the other night, when I got home he had already sent me an email that said he had a "wonderful time and would love to see (me) again soon"
I thought that was the perfect follow-up. He didn't leave me wondering whether he liked me or not(this was a first meeting with an online guy, so you never know for sure if they're interested or not until after), and he made his intention clear that he would like to see me again (relieving me of wondering if that's gonna happen) but left it open so that it doesn't feel pressured or over the top.
After my first date with MM (which lasted 10 hours), I went right home and emailed her "Thanks for a wonderful day. I smiled all the way home and, in fact, I'm still smiling. Let's do it again soon" She emailed right back "you really had a good time? Me too!" I think it's always good practice for the guy to do that ASAP.
Wii, we texted and talked on Sunday and today. I just got off the phone with her. She is going with me tomorrow to my church's Christmas Eve service (they do one every night from Tuesday through Friday, it's a megachurch, 6,000 members).
She doesn't really like her church so I asked her to come with me. It's another chance to see her because with my schedule it'll be two weeks before we can go out again.
Guys, I'm not rushing to the altar. I just want to let this one play out. If it doesn't work out, then I can always join all of the sites again. I'm not one to juggle women anyway. One's enough.
She seems to share a ton of my interests. She's physically active. A good summer day is a run or a bike ride and swimming. Her 14-year-old son and her take a summer trip each year. They just pick a point on a map and they go.
I love that. I love to take my kids places. The place she's always wanted to see is Australia. Me too. She wants to go to Broadway to see a musical. That's something my girls and I have always wanted to do.
We were talking about what we bought our kids for Christmas. Her son wanted a couple of "Tap-Out" t-shirts. Those are UFC (ultimate fighting) shirts. She didn't really want to buy them. She thinks UFC is boring compared to boxing. Me too. She grew up watching Sugar Ray Leonard and Marvin Hagler with her stepfather. Some of my best memories are watching fights with my dad.
Also, she just moved here from Texas and says she makes a mean Texas barbecue. I can't want to taste that for myself.
Hey, I know I have a ton of long dormant adrenaline. But that's a good thing. I have a hectic life with all of the extra jobs. Fitting ANY ONE person in is going to be difficult.
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C2H: I'm happy for you! Sounds like you have lots in common. Truth is - we can find that with anyone, really. Like the Australia thing. Josh and I had that in common from the get go. But so did Ex and I. (I'm happy to say that I went with Josh, not ex - LOL). Still, it sounds like there's more to it than that.
So enjoy the journey. Do not be in any hurry. We can all see the smile on your face across the continent!
Hectic few days. Had second date with DHU-41 and it went very well. We talked a little bit about how it's going to be difficult to see each other. I work a lot. She lives with her sister so I won't just be hanging around there. She said she'll work around my schedule.
We texted a lot last night and it got pretty "interesting" and we were going to see each other today, but then her 14-year-old son told her he was going on his first date and she canceled to help him get ready.
That's fine with me. This is the one week of the winter I don't have much to do. No basketball games. I'll only have the girls Wednesday and Saturday.
The only downer was I spent the morning cleaning rather than donating plasma or catching up at work. Then again, I really needed to clean.
Christmas weekend was good. I took the girls to Wisconsin Dells on Friday. D12 was irritable on the way down and I had to pull over once. It's all school/boy/confidence issues.
Friday was fun. Friday night was more fun. D12 and I went to see "Jack and Jill" while D9 just rested in hotel room. It's a terrible movie. It's so bad it was funny.
Saturday morning D12 again overreacted to something D9 did and they both wanted to just pack up and go home. It took a while, and a little anger, which I'm always trying to avoid, to get them going.
Then it was a great day. They painted pottery. Went to the water park. Played in the arcade. Easy trip home.
D9 was developing an illness so she just laid down when we got home. D12 wrapped more presents.
Sunday morning was the first Christmas they woke up with me. Last year I let them wake up at their traditional home because I wasn't sure how long XW would have it.
Now that it looks like she'll be there a while longer I wanted to have them wake up here. Anyway, D9 wanted XW to come over here. So I invited her and we opened presents here and then I went with them over to the other house and opened presents there.
They were happy. They both got the big things they wanted. I got D9 the present she really was hoping for. XW got D12 the present she wanted.
I only had three presents each and XW had two the girls had picked out. They got me four presents.
XW had a bunch of presents for them. I am guessing she got some money from her mom to go big on presents to kind of match up with my yearly trip.
It worked out well. I took the dog for a walk then I left. I think that surprised the girls. They didn't ask me to stay, but I think they just assumed I'd stay for a while.
But XW's family was coming over and I didn't want to stay. I just headed home and laid on the couch and worked on a stat project. Lifted weights a little and then started texting with DHU-41. We were going to talk but the racy messages filled the time.
I am struggling right now with slowing my brain down. I just start thinking about how this could happen, which could lead to this, which could lead to this.
Mental gymnastics. I have to learn to just be thankful for today.
At the end of October I was facing bankruptcy. I may still end up in bankruptcy but the car accident took off some of the immediate pressure and actually led to a better Christmas trip.
Two weeks ago I was thinking about basically taking the winter off from dating and just concentrating on the various jobs.
Now I have an exciting new lady willing to work around my schedule to see me.
I am just trying to learn to be happy today and let the rest of everything work itself out.
I always talk about how XW just can't be happy with her life. She's always looking for the next thing to make her happy. She'll find something and it leads to temporary happiness.
In my case, I am happy with myself, but I try to make things perfect. I don't let things just be "good enough."
I was happy with XW, but I was always trying to push things, make things even more perfect. That's good to a point but tiring.
Here, I should just be happy to have found someone to spend time with, but I keep thinking about the complications that could come about and how to handle those.
I need to stop and just be.
Anyway. Merry Christmas.
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JUst don't rush it - take your time.