Too little, Too late.

[sunshine76]

Oh Purg, I am so sorry that you found those emails. A few months ago (before there was any type of discussion about us breaking up...) I looked at my W's email and found out she had signed up on match.com. She swore up and down that she was just trying to find "friends" in the area (I swear she thinks I am an effing idiot). I immediately contacted her and confronted her. Let's just say it did not go well at all. She turned it around on me and said that she could not believe that I would go through her email and than my head started spinning and I thought I was going to lose my mind. I would STRONGLY advise you against confronting either one of them. I guarantee you it is going to make your sitch so much worse.

Remember the advice that you gave to me about when my W comes home after spending 8 days with OW. She doesn't know that I know about her and I am going to try my absolute hardest to keep it that way because if I don't I know that I am totally screwed.

Like you said your husband could have changed his mind over the course of 2 weeks, but just in case he hasn't you need to start mentally bracing and figuring out how you are going to respond. It is actually a good thing that you found the email to his C because it buys you time to think. I know that if I had found out about OW while my W was here you probably would have heard me yelling all the way across the country.

It sounds like you might need to start pulling back again. When our spouses are being nice to us it is so easy to mentally slip right back into that relationship mode again, but trust me they are not there with us.

I can't even imagine what you are going through with your medical stuff and dealing with all of this R crap on top of it. I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better. Just know that you are in my thoughts and prayers and although it doesn't feel like it right now somehow we are going to get through this.

(FYI I accidently posted this on barelyfloatings thread, sorry)