itsy, I am very happy to read your posting today. Congratulations to you for going back to school. You will do well in the HR field.
I'm glad to see that the family has finally settled down and you are enjoying your grandchildren. I'm sorry that the xh still hasn't found himself, but he may very well be one of those that remains stuck forever. However, it's good to see that he does remember the holidays and the wonderful memories that you both share from years ago w/regards to Christmas.
itsy, thank you for returning today to share your accomplishments.
Happy Holidays!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.