I really need some help here. I've been living with the W for the last 4 weeks. I found out that she posted something on Craigslist that stated how she was not attracted to me and wanted a guy to talk to. Then I found out she's been emailing guys back and forth nude photos and talking dirty...very dirty...to them. She claims to have never met them, and I tend to believe her.
We talked about it and she said she doesn't have any attraction towards me at all. In fact, she says she was when were dating and lost it soon after we married. She never liked having sex with me, now that she has had an affair (multiple which I found out about too), she likes sex but doesnt want to have it with me.
Here's the kicker. She doesn't want the kids to live without both of us. So, she says she is willing to stop doing the emailing stuff, stop dating, go to counseling, and give our marriage an honest shot. Mainly for the kids' sake.
I really do not know what to do. Here I've been thinking that we were working on us and she is sending and receiving naked photos of herself. Why is she willing to work on us now? Because of the kids? Because I caught her? Why should I believe her?
Give it to me straight. Is there any point in going to counseling? I'm really tired of this whole thing. I told her that If she doesn't want to be with me, then let me go. Can attraction really come back? Her actions a couple days ago are unacceptable. I really want to believe that we can make this work out, but I fear she's just delaying the inevitable.
My girls are so excited to live with both of us again...I can't break their hearts again. If I didn't have them, I would just say F this and leave. I know she loves her kids and will do anything for them. Which is why I believe she is serious about counseling. My kids are caught in the middle and I dont want to jerk them around.
