Feels like the bottom of 9th with 2 outs

[workinghardguy]

Peter - she's only using you as a babysitter because you let her. Have a plan, have somewhere to go... and then tell her you have plans so she needs to come home or get a babysitter.

Ultimately if she doesn't and still goes out, then yes, of course you'll have to step up. But there's a difference between her violating an agreed upon night and her going out when you're at home anyway.

And to be frank... who cares who brings her home? Be happy she didn't drive drunk. And yes, she lied about it... but really so what? The only reason is bothers you is because you care. You care who is hanging with, who she has relationships with, and what she is doing that might further those. That's not detaching... that's controlling.

She'll continue to use it to hurt you as long as you let it hurt you.