Did you forget the part about having no expectations of your W, whatsoever?
In hindsight, do you think you could have managed the stocking situation differently? Something like, hey Hun did you do the stockings? If not, I'll go ahead and take care of them. Then let her decide how she wants to react. If she objects, then the burden is entirely on her!
Also, why confront her on her partying and the ride home on Christmas Eve? You should make a mental note and wait a day or two so as not to spoil the day for everyone. Think about it. Now that you have confronted, you're PO'd, your W is PO'd and that mood will stay with you the rest of the day. Was it worth it? Could you have held in together until tomorrow?
You say that you really don't know what your W has turned into. I'll tell you what she has turned into and that is an alien! The sooner you realize that and a ct accordingly, the better off you will be.
So, I'll say it again. BREATHE... DEEPLY!!
Me51 W53 S17 S14 M22 T25 Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11
It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.
Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
