The truth of the matter is, in life, there's no right or wrong. There's good behaviours and there's bad behaviours, but no matter what you believe (in), at the end of the day, what you do in any moment is simply a catalyst for that which is to come.
At least, that's my opinion.
Having said that, I did the "midnight move" when my W was away. Looking back, I can honestly say that I did not do it to get a reaction from her. Rather, I believe I did it because I didn't want to face her WHILE I did it and I'm sure it would not have happened, but I did not want her to talk me out of it. How I did it and WHY I did it was selfish. It was for my own purpose.
I don't know I would have chosen a different path in hindsight. I don't think so.
So in reading what you said, I notice that it is about her. Both leaving it there AND removing it.
Are you going to base your actions on HER... or are you going to base your actions on YOU?
And then remove them or not... based on what YOU need and want for YOU...
