WOW IS you have some very wise and caring friends on this site. I believe that 25, Val and Aeolianchaos have just given all of us some really powerful advice and definetely a lot to think about.
Val's story about her uncle struck a chord with me because after my mom died I felt like I was living in a blackhole of depression and I had no idea how to get out or if I even could. The fact is, is that at some point I made a choice to start crawling out of my hole. It wasn't done alone. I had the support of my W, family and a therapist. I can tell you with absolute certainty that I never ever want to go back to that place.
Like the ladies said we need to take back control over our lives. We are in charge of writing our own life stories. I don't know about you, but at this point I don't trust my W enough to hand over the pen and say hey can you finish writing my life story. God knows if I did that she would have me being pulled behind a sleigh
I will be thinking about you and your son today. I hope that you both have an absolutely amazing Christmas.
M:(f) 35 W: 45 3 dogs and 2 cats T: 9 years 9/30/11 I love you, but I'm not in love with you OW confirmed 12/23/11
