First post, words of wisdom needed

[sunshine76]

Hey IS thank you so much for posting! I completely understand what you mean about the legal aspect. My W and I still own our townhome in Houston, but it is in her name (lesson learned). Up until this past year I have always been financially independent and paid for much more than my share of the bills... Wife convinced me that I should go back to school which was very sweet of her at the time, but boy it sure stinks right now because I am having to totally start over from scratch.

I am sorry that you had the OW women confirmed in a way that you will never be able to erase!! I can only imagine what that was. I am done snooping. I knew that something was going on I just didn't know exactly what or when it started, but now all of the pieces fit together.

Like you, I think that we would be better off living seperately. My W has had alot of traumatic things happen in her life that she has never dealt with. Now all that stuff has caught up to her and I think that she is treating me as her scapegoat. If we were not together that would eliminate me from the equation and she might have to look at herself in the mirror and figure out what is really going on in her life, but now she is in a long distance R with OW so I don't forsee her getting help anytime soon.

It must be so difficult having the OW thrown in your face all the time. I have no idea how you are dealing with that. I do have to say that my W has been fairly respectful. She typically calls OW when she is in her room or at work and doesn't text to much in front of me, but that could all change once she gets back from her 8 day vacation with her and has to face the real world again.

I am really enjoying California. I'm jealous that you used to live in N. California. I have always wanted to live there. To bad you don't still live here we could get some coffee and come up with diabolical yet funny ways to torture our W's and the OW