Done lurking, need advice.

[Grmpy_Mnky]

It does seem counter-intuitive. I want her to knwo that I am happy to listen, but she scurrys about the house like I am invisible. End of the week I''l have my own place and I can detach.

My more recent challenge has been transitioning from boundary (ie. "Sorry, thanks for the offer, but I would feel uncomfortable to be there.") to detached (ie. "aw, man... thanks for the invite, I already have plans. Have fun.")

I'm close, though... I think it's more a case that I forget to say that, rather than actually feeling that...

But it starts with working through our emotions and bettering ourselves effectively, and through that, beginning to detach emotionally using boundaries if necessary...

Sound's like you are making progress!

Thanks for all the kind words. As silly as it sound's, this board is saving me right now.