Trusting, Stay the course and continue to be the kind and loving person that you have always been. Keep your focus on your daughter and the holidays....whatever is going on w/him, he will have to do the work to make his life better.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thanks Snodderly, I appreciate all your help and advice....
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
My daughter's Christmas play was yesteday. Ex did not show up.
My daughter worked on 2 Christmas cards in her 1st grade classroom. One for me and one for her daddy. Mine was 3 pages long praising me for being the best mom ever. Talking about the games we play and the cookies we bake.
Her card to her daddy said: Merry Christmas Daddy, Your ok.
Love, daughter
I had to chuckle.....
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I'm sorry that your Ex did not show up for your daughter's Christmas play.
D13 has gotten to the point that she doesn't bother to even ask her father to come to any of her functions anymore. That way she isn't disappointed when he doesn't show up.
LOL on the cards your D made. Out of the mouths of babes...
Thanks seeking, isn't it the truth. The children realize more than we know.....
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Trusting, I am sorry that your xh didn't attend your little girl's Christmas play. He sure missed out a very good memory and his little girl will always remember that.
Your little girl is very wise for her age...enjoy the time you spend w/her for she will be grown and off to college before you know it.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Ex started texting me again after about one month of not hearing much from him. He asked questions about the kids schedule, which he already knew. I just politely answer all of his questions and wished him a happy holiday and many blessings. He is much more accomodating this year than last regarding the children. That is a wonderful Christmas present and I am grateful.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Our day care provider told me yesterday that ex told her that our "divorce situation was an unfortunate occurrance". She stated he was and looked very confused regarding his life. Confused is nothing new in my situation. The only difference is that he is somewhat nice and confused rather that monster and confused.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Trusting, I am glad that your xh is being more accommodating this year. Maybe he's starting to realize what he's done. One will never know what is going on inside his head.
May you and your family have a very Merry Christmas! Leave the confusion at the door and enjoy this special time of year.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
